The Myth of "Just Being Yourself" Don't you like it when people give you that same old phrases of "just be yourself and chicks will like you." I remember how I used to hear that all through high school, and frankly, it never helped a bit. The fact of the matter is that some parts of you are more appropriate in some situations than in others. You wouldn't stick your feet up on the nice tablecloth at a melly dinner party, even if you want to (unless you're going for the PURE jerk approach, which would definitely accomplish this quite nicely btw).

For example, you probably wouldn't swear and cuss in church even if you felt like you wanted to. First of all, what the does it mean for one to just "be one's self?" Some Answers. In short, none of these moves would be advantageous to you getting the results you desire. And you generally don't put a heavy come-on onto the girl giving you an important job interview, even if it would be an expression of who you truly are at that moment.

So some people say, "well isn't that being manipulative?" After all if you find the girl at the job interview makes you.